Before you buy anything
A few things worth knowing first
The most important question before you buy anything: where will you play? An acoustic kit at full volume is genuinely one of the loudest things you can do inside a house — around 90-100 dB, louder than a lawnmower. If you live in an apartment or have neighbors within earshot, an acoustic kit is a neighbor problem waiting to happen. An electronic kit with mesh pads brings practice volume down to near-conversation levels. This is not a preference — it's a constraint.
Start with a practice pad and sticks before committing to a full kit. A $35 pad and $12 stick pair gives you enough to learn basic hand technique, paradiddles, and simple rudiments. Two weeks of pad work makes your first hour on an actual kit dramatically more productive, and it costs less than a dinner out.
Electronic kits are not inferior to acoustic — they're different. For a beginner practicing in a home, an electronic kit with mesh pads is often the smarter tool: quieter, built-in metronome, headphone output for silent practice, and easier to record. The touch is slightly different from acoustic, but this matters more at intermediate level than at beginner.